When I was cast out of the Restoration congregation in Aylmer because I disagreed with some of their practices and teachings, I determined by the grace of God to not act like they would act toward me (I have been around them for 20 years and I know how they deal with those that leave or they put out).
I would not give railing for railing. I wouldn’t be rude toward them when they were rude toward me. I would not unsave them when they unsave me. I would not slander them when they slandered me. I would not shun them when they will shun me. I would not refuse to speak to them then they refuse to speak to me. I would not take down their meeting notices they put up when they take down my booklets I put up.
I would not rejoice when things go wrong for them like they will rejoice when things go wrong for me. I would not paint their conduct in the worse possible way like they will do to me. I would not repeat evil stories I hear about them like they will no doubt repeat those they hear about me. I wouldn’t dredge up all their past faults and failures and spread them around like they will of me.
Instead, I will with love, pray for them, ask God’s blessings upon them, continue to brother them, stand up for them when they are misrepresented and slandered, present them in the best light I can, not hold their sins against them but hope they are doing these things in ignorance. When I differed with them it would be only on their doctrine and practices and even then I will testify of all the good teachings and practices they have and all the wonderful truth I have learned from them.
I have determined in my heart to rejoice when they do wrong to me and to forgive them 7 times 70 each day for the rest of my life.
This is the way the Lord would have us to act toward those that abuse us, that cast us out, that count us apostate, that refuse to fellowship with us and influence others to do the same — just because we disagree with them on non-essential practices and doctrine.