<<<Anger is a response to something that a person considers negative that has happened around them or to them.

That is information or a fact about anger more than a definition.

Bob.

Came across your article during my own research for a message on what the Bible has to say about anger. Thanks for the time you put into this.

I’ve been working on this area in my life and thinking a lot about it, and something occurred to me while I was reading your article. At the beginning you defined anger this way: “Anger is a response to something that a person considers negative that has happened around them or to them.”

This is certainly true, but it’s not enough. Sadness could also be defined by that same sentence. As could Jealousy, or even fear. The fact that something negative happened to me or near me isn’t sufficient to incite anger. It probably will incite something, but not necessarily anger.

The distinction, I think, is this. Anger occurs when something happens which I consider – in my own private logic – to have violated me or someone/something I love. I say “in my own private logic” because my anger may be justified, or it may not be.

For example, when my insurance company denies my coverage because of a loophole, I’m angry because I’ve been violated by a company who doesn’t keep their promises when it’s not financially in their interest. That anger is likely justified. My feeling of being violated, and the objective reality of my being violated are probably in agreement. But when that guy at Costco slips into the parking space that I was angling for, my anger isn’t justified. I still feel a pang of being violated because I’d decided that space was mine. But the internal feeling of being violated and the objective reality don’t line up.

Thanks for your thoughts on how to deal with anger as well.

M.

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My heart goes out to you and your child!

I would suggest that you redirect your feelings of anger from your husband toward the devil and sin.

Your husband, as are all people, was born with a disposition to behave wrong and sin. We see this in all very young children. Whether you call it a original sin, sinful nature, fallen nature, humanity, or what ever tag you put on it — it is a undeniable fact.

Children don’t choice to act this way, they can’t help themselves. As people grow up, if they don’t find Christ and gain victory over sin and its devastating effects, they continue in a downward sprial and they hurt others as they go.

The law experience is “For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.” — Rom 7:19-21

This is a position all people that have come to the age of accountability find themselves in. Wanting to do good but not being able to do it. While their is a way out — “For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death” (Rom 8:2) — for some it takes a longer time to find this way out and the sad thing is only a few find it.

Make sure wilful and known sin have no part in your life. If you have any known or wilful sin in your life renounce it, forsake it, repent of it, and go and sin no more. Internet sins, TV sins, smoking, drunkness, wilful selfishness, uncontained anger, lust, gossip, imodesty, grudges, hatred, or envy. Clean house and be clean. You will not be able to get victory over having anger toward your husband while you indulge in other known or wilful sins.

After you as the vessel of the Lord are clean then help others to flee the commiting of wilful and known sin. Work for Jesus and do as much damage as you can to the kingdom of darkness.

When you are tempted to have anger toward your husband go to prayer and in faith plead the power in the blood of Jesus to give you relief from that temptation and the feels that come with it. Cry out to Him as He cried out to the Father in the garden. Plead the blood, plead the birth, death, and resurrection of Christ. Ask the Father to rebuke the power of darkness on your behalf. Cry out aloud.

Then thank the Father for all the good He has done for you. For helping you to find the narrow way. For forgivness of sins. Worship him and adore Him in the beauty of holiness. Not your holiness but the imputed and IMPARTED holiness of Christ!

After you find releave go and get yourself a handful of tracts and go downtown and pass them out. Go and visit an elderly person in the elderly people’s home and shower love over them. Bake a big batch of cookies to the glory of God and go and find the poor people in your town or the homeless people and give them out in the name of the Lord. Cookies from Jesus!

As you go about doing good you are doing damage to the devils kingdom. Enter into the warfare, let the devil know you hate him and you are going to do him damage. Glory in the holy strife but at the same time keep humble and lowly and don’t get carried away. You must go in the power of His might!

Feel free to drop back and give us a request for more prayer and a report of victory!

Christian love and prayers,

Bob.

To have power over anger you must have power over sin. Any one that gives into sin in one area of their life will have problems with sin in other areas. We can’t grow in grace and add the fruit of the Spirit to our Christian experience if we are falling in and out of sin. After we have gained complete victory over sin by grace through faith we then can perfect holiness in the fear of God and work out our salvation and gain victory in the fruit of the Spirit.

While all progress in the Christian life is by grace through faith there are some things we can do to gain better control of our feelings and moods. 1) Lots of prayer and reading of the Word, 2) Clearfulness to hear the voice of the Lord — if you will listen he will warn you of coming trials, 3) When you start to get irritated run to the place of prayer and stay there until you have victory, 4) Commit to live a selfless life and give up all your rights, 5) Resist thoughts of complaining and don’t verbalize them, 6) Think it not strange concerning your trails but rejoice in them knowing you are called to be partakers in the sufferings of Christ (1Pet 4:13), 7) See all your trials as holy warfare and “glory in the holy strife”, 8) Shout praises to God in the middle of your trials, 9) See your trials as God equipping you to be able to comfort others that go thought the same trials you have with the comfort that God gave you when you were going thought them (2Cor 1:4), 10) Rejoice in all things knowing trials work patience, experience, and hope (Rom 5:3-5).

Christian love and prayers,

Bob.